Meet Shirley Wiggins —
London-Based Midlife Life Coach With Decades of Wisdom
Real Talk. Deep Roots. Coaching for Midlife Change That Sticks.
I’m Shirley Wiggins – life and career coach for men over 40 who feel stuck and want real change.
If you’ve been circling the same mountain ⛰️ – unsure which path to take – and you’re finally ready to lace up your boots and climb towards something meaningful, you’re in the right place.
Why I Coach Men in Midlife — From Survival to Strength
From Lived Experience to Lasting Results
I’ve been where you are… and I know the way through.
Life threw me curveballs — career disruption, health scares, relationship breakdowns — and I faced them all head-on.
Over 30+ years in high-stakes sectors taught me what works when everything’s on the line. I didn’t just survive. I transformed. Now I help others do the same.
My Background
What I bring to the table:
• VIP Travel & Tourism: top-tier service, adaptability, discretion
• Lecturer in Vocational Education: second-chance learning and confidence-building
• Young Offender Teacher: resilience, tough conversations, real results
• Multi-Agency Manager: navigating systems, getting results despite red tape
That mix gives me a rare, grounded lens on people, power, and potential.
I use the Kepner-Tregoe problem-solving, decision-making framework — trusted by corporate leaders and scientific thinkers — adapted for real-life complexity. Clear steps, smart tools, and a process that makes decisions doable.
✅ No jargon
✅ Tools that work in real life
✅ Structure that unlocks decisions
I help you separate emotion from chaos and facts from fears. We get to the truth of what you actually want (not what you think you should want) and we build a practical roadmap to get there.
I meet you where you are. Whether you're successful but unfulfilled, dealing with redundancy, navigating relationship breakdown, wanting adventure, or just tired of feeling stuck — I'll sit with you in the mess but won't leave you there.
How I Coach —
Structured Support for Men 40+ Seeking Real Change
Everything is rooted in strategy, not surface-level hype. This is where lived experience meets professional wisdom.
The Values That Guide My Coaching for Men in Midlife
Values like…
Empowerment — You already have the power… I will help you reclaim it. Equipping you with tools and confidence to drive your success.
Truth-Telling — With genuine care, I give you… The straight truth. No BS, no masks, and no posturing.
Grounded Wisdom — Like the ancient Baobab tree, we build foundations that last. Real strength comes from deep roots, not quick fixes that fade.
Inclusivity — Every part of you is welcome here… Your sexuality, your strengths, quirks, challenges, and your unique path. You don’t have to leave any part of yourself at the door.
Inclusion Matters
As a black woman who’s navigated systemic bias and taught in the toughest environments, I coach from a culturally aware place.
You can show up fully as yourself. No masks.
Men In Midlife
Is This Coaching For You?
You’re a thoughtful, capable man who feels stuck. Maybe you’ve been:
• Successful on the outside but unfulfilled inside
• Made redundant and unsure of what’s next
• Navigating divorce, grief, or major change
• Ready to stop going through the motions
If you’re done with talking in circles and want real progress — I’m your coach.
This Coaching Isn’t For Everyone
If you’re looking for a soft, feel-good chat without challenge, I may not be the coach for you.
But if you’re ready to roll up your sleeves and create change with clarity, I’ve got you.
The result? A rare, grounded lens on human behaviour, resilience, and what actually creates lasting change.
Meet Your Midlife Life Coach – Decades of Real-World Wisdom You Can Trust
I’m a life coach for midlife men who are ready to stop people-pleasing and start truly living. When I’m not coaching, I’m out exploring London’s hidden corners with my Jack Russell, Millie — small, loud, and fearless (just like her Mum).
I live for good food, acting, modelling, culture, community, and deep conversations. I’m always hunting for that spark — in a market stall, on a city walk, in someone’s story.
I bring all of that into my coaching. Because breakthroughs don’t come from the surface — they come from getting real.
My motto, inspired by: "I Promise Myself" by Christian D. Larson
Still Stuck at Base Camp? Let’s Start the Climb.
Let’s Get to Work
If you’re feeling stuck in your career, relationships or purpose, and you’re ready to stop waiting — let’s talk.
❌ No fluff
✅ Real tools
✅ No-pressure clarity session
Deep roots. Real Results. Your next chapter starts now. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s see if we’re the right fit to get you moving forward.
What Coaching Clients Are Saying…